7 signs of having a bad life partner

You may think that you are a good life partner. But that may not be the case.

A word or deed may create a risk to love or a marital relationship. And you may not understand that.

"The first step to any change is to be cautious," Susan Winter, a U.S. relations expert, told the Elite Daily.

"Being honest and aware of one's own faults means moving forward to maintain good mental health."

It can be a bad thing to be busy on the phone most of the time even if your partner is by your side, to always try to win the quarrel by yourself and to ask him/her to make up his/her mind in bad times.

There are some symptoms like this that may be presenting you as a bad partner.

1. Misunderstandings on minor matters:

In the case of a relationship, one of the issues of the partner may silence you. However, if you object to all the issues of the partner, it is not the work of a good partner at all.

Maybe it's pointing out that the cucumber piece isn't going well or always refusing to buy something. This means that you are unknowingly hurting the relationship.

Winter said, “The opposite of love is controlling the partner's self-identity, actions, thoughts. It is a kind of fascination that people do to ensure security. It has nothing to do with love or intimacy. ”

2. Not to express even if you are upset with your partner:

Capturing your bad feelings in a bottle means giving it a chance to happen again. Remember that your partner is not a psychologist but will always be there to understand your mind.

David Bennett, a U.S. relations expert, said, "A healthy, strong relationship means that he is honest and expresses his needs, and so does his partner."

So tell your partner directly when something goes wrong. But of course not by anger or quarrel.

3. Feeling lonely when companions are with friends:

Being together all the time can mean that the two can't be apart. But the thing is, it's called 'over-dependence'. Which is not right for a healthy relationship.

Your partner is cheating on you - trying to be with your partner all the time without such issues or incidents is like working extra fascination towards him/her.

Jennifer Rhodes, a psychologist in the United States, says, “Doing almost everything together can create problems in the end. You may be trying to impress your partner by suppressing your feelings. ”

Which on the other hand will create problems at one time?

4. The last sentence or word of the quarrel is yours:

There must be quarrels in the relationship. But always trying to win the argument is not a sign of a healthy mind at all. Maybe you are looking at the relationship in a completely wrong way.

Winter said, “If your words are always the last word in a fight, you have to understand that you always try to win. Whether it is anyone's fault or not. In other words, the relationship becomes a place to exercise your strength. ”

So before you do anything like that, think about why you are doing it. Instead of trying to win the argument, try to compromise.

5. Threatening to end the relationship:

Just like winning a fight, threatening to end a relationship during an argument means trying to control the situation in your own way.

That means if you don't win, you will leave.

In an interview with Reader's Digest, Stan Tokin, founder of Psychological Approach to Couple Therapy and a US psychologist, said: "People threaten to get their partner in line. Relationships are not threatened. ”

"Anyway, you should only talk about breaking up when you really want to. Otherwise, these words have no value. And to threaten in this way is to damage the relationship. "

6. Telling the partner to stay good in bad times:

Strange as it may seem, telling your partner to stay good in bad times can be detrimental to the relationship.

Asking him to be nice can mean that if he is in a good mood, you can have a good time with him/her. His/her bad times are worthless to you. Have you ever thought like this?

"You can't stress how your partner will feel," Winter said. It's a sign of trying to control it. "

Instead, keep him company when he/she is in trouble. Stay by his/her side with the value of his/her feelings.

Being busy on the phone all the time:

At the present time, life cannot go on without a phone. Work, communication with friends and relatives, or entertainment are all in those phones. That is why it is not a good thing to be busy on the phone without giving time to your partner.

It's like asking your partner to tell you about your post all the time, even if you are alone.

Megan Fleming, a relationship expert in the United States, said: "Spending time together indicates a 'disconnection' or a limitation of communicating with one's partner."

So if you want to be a good partner, look at these things.