The role of husband and wife in building a happy conjugal life.

Both husband and wife have an equal role to play in shaping a happy and prosperous conjugal life. And it's not always the same. Sometimes decreases sometimes increase. There is a rural proverb in our country - "The family is happy because of the wife." From this, it is understood that sometimes the role of the wife in a family becomes more important. But both husband and wife have a unique role to play in shaping a happy Conjugal life.

We should know that a happy and conducive family background can serve as the most supportive force for any self-improvement. A favorable family environment is a very important factor in personality and talent development. The family is formed around the family relationship between a woman and a man. The closer the relationship, the more affectionate and respectful the family, the more pro-active, disciplined and well-planned the family behavior will be, the more important the family environment will be in developing talent and creativity. We can say without hesitation that the basis of a happy family and a favorable family environment is love and affection, respect, discipline, and spiritual unity. In a favorable family environment, the relationship between men and women complements each other. This complementary unity in the family environment can play the most important role in the development of a person's self-esteem and talent.

In order to create complementary unity in family life, increase mutual love and affection, and create order, some rules and procedures can be followed irrespective of gender. Following these rules and procedures will make family life more orderly and compassionate, and it will be easier to develop one's personality and talents. It is the duty of both men and women to build a successful and happy family:

Things to do in personal life: -

• To have faith and trust in the Creator.

• Worship regularly.

• Be responsible and confident.

• To study regularly for the purpose of self-development.

• Always be optimistic and thankful.

• Stay clean and tidy.

• Being punctual and disciplined in all matters.

• Work with a plan in advance.

• Wear modest and elegant clothes.

• Avoid gossip and backbiting.

• Trying to get rid of lies.

• Self-review regularly.

Things to do in case of personal behavior: -

• Always talk with a smile.

• Always be pro-active.

• Maintaining a balance between words and deeds.

• Doing nothing out of jealousy and anger.

• Avoid arguing and quarreling tactics.

• Not making false promises to anyone.

• Not trying to cheat anyone.

• Not to be jealous of anyone.

• Consciously not to harm others.

• Be skilled in expressing sentiments and emotions.

• Trying to present yourself as an ideal person.

• Treating employees and domestic workers humanely.

Things to do in family life: -

• The husband and wife try to understand each other.

• Not listening to the words of others.

• Eliminate misunderstandings by discussing them yourself. The third is not to involve anyone in it.

• Don't talk about the house outside.

• Pray for each other regularly.

• Not to mention that it can cause unrest and strife in the family.

• If it is a close-knit family, everyone's children should be seen at a glance. Shopping for the same quality for everyone.

• Decide on travel and recreation according to the wishes of most of the family. Walking with everyone.

• Organize regular self-development discussions with everyone in the family.

• Exclusion of unsightly relationships in the eyes of society.

• Avoiding relationships that create misunderstandings in married life.

• To provide domestic workers with their own food.

• Turning the family environment into a smoking and drug-free zone.

Things to do as a wife in the family: -

• To consider every work of the world as worship.

• Think of yourself as the soul of the family.

• To consider the husband as a friend, life partner, guide, and head of the family.

• Doing nothing to hide the husband.

• To be proud of the good deeds, contributions, and achievements of the husband.

• To be faithful to her husband at all times and to express love and affection in words and deeds.

• No problems or complaints as soon as the husband and children come from outside.

• Feel free to admit or apologize to your husband if something goes wrong.

• Sometimes buying small gifts for the husband at his own expense.

• If necessary, spend the money earned for the husband and the family.

• Not to make any unreasonable whims to the husband.

• Having an idea about the husband's reasonable income. Limit household expenses within income.

• Not forcing the husband to be corrupt by creating extra cost and pressure

• Standing like a firm mountain beside her husband in any danger or crisis.

• Not giving anything to anyone without the husband's knowledge.

• Not to stab the husband's relatives.

• Respect father-in-law and mother-in-law like your own parents.

• Trying to solve the problem of the house ownself.

• Not to quarrel with the husband in front of the child and not to criticize him for his mistakes.

• Even if she is an employee, she should take care of her children and family so that there is no neglect.

• Sympathetically consider any disability of the husband.

• Assisting the husband in self-development and spiritual development.

• Not to belittle the husband to others.

• Trying to develop the qualities of a great man in the child as a mother.

• Always keep the gas stove off without the need.

• To create awareness in the family against all kinds of waste.

• Don't be arrogant. Do not magnify your own suffering.

• Keep the house clean and tidy.

Things to do as a husband in the family: -

• As a husband consider yourself the main responsibility of the family.

• To consider the responsibility of the family as worship.

• Consider the wife as a girlfriend, life partner, and head of the household.

• Consult with the wife in making every decision in the family.

• To appreciate the good work, contribution, and achievement of the wife.

• To be faithful to the wife and to express love and affection through words and deeds.

• Anger and resentment at work or outside the home should not be expressed on the wife-child or domestic worker.

• Confess your mistake with your wife without hesitation. To apologize to his wife for wrongdoing.

• Meeting the needs of the wife according to the income, giving small gifts and handouts, and not asking about handouts.

• Giving freedom to the wife at the expense of the money and resources earned by the wife.

• Fulfilling the wife's logical reasonable whim.

• Giving the wife a clear idea about her own income from the very beginning and not making money in an illegal way.

• If there is a professional or family crisis, discuss it openly with the wife.

• Not to give unreasonable hindrance to the wife in giving gifts or help to relatives.

• Not listening to his wife's relatives.

• Respect the wife's parents like one's own parents.

• Not to interfere in the minor affairs of the house. Helping with household chores as much as possible.

• Not to blame the wife for her mistakes in front of the children.

• Spending one day a week with wife, sons, and daughters.

• Participate in every housework and cooking like a picnic.

• To consider any mistake of the wife with sympathy.

• Not to discredit the wife to others.

• Always strive to acquire professional skills.

• Don't waste money. Don't make emotional purchases.

• Trying to find your own fault.

• Regularly inquire about the wife's physical condition. If the wife is sick, take her to the doctor.

• Listen carefully to any complaints from the wife. Refrain from saying "no" at first to any proposal or word.

• Don't waste time playing cards or chatting with clubs or friends on the pretext of working outside. Spending time for the spiritual and emotional upliftment of the family.

What husband and wife should do in raising children: -

• All children, regardless of gender, are treated equally.

• Do not scold the child for saying negative things. Not cursing the child in anger.

• To support the child from an early age.

• Give the child enough time. As the child gets a little older, be aware of their friends. Creating a sincere friendly relationship with the child so that the child feels emotionally united with the parents. To present themselves as role models in front of the child.

• Explain to the child with logic what to do without always ordering.

• Don't give the child anything he/she wants. Not fulfilling the unjust desires of the child.

• If the child is 18 years old, share him/her in family counseling.

• To keep an eye on whether the child is being subjected to the subculture in the name of entertainment.

• Helping the child to develop as a person skilled in the application of science and technology.

• To create opportunities for the child to develop moral, mental, spiritual, and creative qualities.

• Encouraging the child to take up an independent profession instead of a job.

• Make the child accustomed to greeting and shaking hands first.

• Provide appropriate financial concept of the family in front of the child. Don't lie about finances.

There is happiness and sorrow and laughter and tears in the sweet conjugal life of husband and wife. Again, there is disagreement in this sweet life. However, if the time for disagreement is long, then marital life can be unhappy. So in this case, if both husband and wife fulfill their respective responsibilities of the family properly by eliminating the evil qualities of human beings, they can easily build a happy family environment.

(Source: Quantum Method)