Some simple tips to improve sex life and enhance pleasure
1. Have only one partner
2. Have fun with sex
3. Don't worry about your performance
This is called
"performance distress" and is that sometimes a man is so concerned
about looking good that he is attacked by an acute episode of erectile
dysfunction, and either there is no erection or that it lasts too little. Again
the treacherous mind. Relax, feel, and do not worry about hardness or
resistance, if your mind is enjoying it, your body will respond as it should.
4. Seeks balance in
orgasm
Everything in this
crazy world works thanks to the basic principle of balance. It is so bad that
you seek your own pleasure and leave it in the middle of tango as if you want
the woman to have the fifty orgasms per session that Masters and Johnson say
women can have. And it goes again: sexual pleasure is a question of quality,
not quantity. It can help you: Coital alignment: the technique to achieve
female orgasm as a couple.
5. Focus on your pleasure
Sex is something that
happens when the woman wants and the man can. And it ends when he does. No way,
it's a biological truth. To make matters worse, and by some dark design or evil
of Mother Nature, the woman, although more resistant, is also slower to become
aroused. So put into practice that maxim that says that love is in giving, and
focus on making your partner feel and excite and make him reach orgasm before
it is your turn. Your partner's pleasure will be a trigger for your own
pleasure. Not for nothing do the masters of tantra, the science of ecstasy,
emphasize that ejaculation be delayed as long as possible.
6. Eat foods that
improve your sex life
Certain dishes have
been shown to stimulate your sexual appetite. And it is not exactly
aphrodisiacs, but foods that provide energy, stimulate your brain, relax you
and make you produce serotonin.
The effect of a
romantic dinner doesn't have to be just psychological. There is a direct
relationship between what we eat and our energetic state and, therefore, on our
libido. Foods of animal origin tend to increase power and arousal, while those
of plant origin promote relaxation and enjoyment. So don't wait any longer, and
prepare an intimate dinner for your partner that includes dishes with a good
nutritional balance, such as the 5 Foods to improve your sexual life.
7. Put problems aside
Sure, sex is a physical
thing, but it depends entirely on the mind. And the mind is treacherous,
especially when it has problems and is on alert due to the continuous stress
that we all live in today. Through the hypothalamus, which by the way controls
both sexual function and emotions and many other things, the mind can send signals
for arousal, or close the circuits so that absolutely nothing happens. Bringing
problems to bed with your partner is not a good idea at all. Have you ever been
told that to do something well you have to concentrate without thinking about
anything else? Well, sex is no exception.
8. Use fantasy
We all have sexual
fantasies. Some deny it, but they have them anyway. Some can be done, others
better not. But building sexual fantasies as a couple is a lot of fun and
tremendously exciting. If you have fantasized about making love with an unknown
person, your partner can play the role (remember that everything is a game). Or
both are dying to do it in the back of the car (in the garage, so the patrol
doesn't catch them). Talk to each other about your sexual fantasies and fulfill
them. That is always good sex!
9. Break the Routine
The only thing that has
a schedule is work and taking medications. Well, there are other things too,
sure, but sex definitely not. It also does not have fixed places, there is no
reason. That is, there is no reason to do it Monday, Thursday, and Saturday
from seven to eight, in the bedroom. It could be a Friday at twelve, in the
kitchen, for example. Or on a Monday at three on the dining room table. Or on a
Sunday at four in the laundry room. The routine crushes everything and is
devastating for sex. Many problems of sexual incompatibility are fixed when the
couple makes love at an unusual time and place. Do you catch?
10. A show that they will love
Regardless of whether
you do it when you are alone, masturbating as a couple is an exciting
experience. It is very exciting to see how your sexual partner masturbates in
front of you. In addition, it is quite illustrative, because they can see
exactly how the other is touched, at what points and in what way, and then
practice what they have learned. And although masturbation between two is a
rarely used sexual practice, it is very stimulating, especially when you openly
express how much you like it.
11. From time to time, sleep naked
After an exciting round
of sex, hug each other gently, and sleep naked. The rubbing of bodies without
clothes are one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs that exist and will provoke
in you the degree of excitement necessary for a new sexual encounter.
12. Don't hold back your emotions
Feel free to express
your feelings when you make love, but make sure that your bedroom is isolated
enough so that no one can hear what is going on inside. With doors and windows
closed, move, talk and yell without inhibition. His voice will tell you what
his feelings are and both of you will have the impression that his performance
is excellent.
13. Use sexual aids
Well, we are talking
between adults, right? And just as children have toys, so do we. The point of
toys is to have fun. In the case of sex toys like Chinese balls and vibrators,
they can add, if both you and she agree, an extra element of fun and excitement
to the matter. The same goes for porn videos (if you are able to watch more
than two without getting bored). Watch that movie together and enjoy it.
14. Bathe together
Take a bath together on
rest days. Fill the tub with warm water and add a few drops of essential oils.
Don't forget to light some scented candles to add a romantic touch to the
occasion. Then soak a sponge with scented soap and gently rub your partner's
back and then ask him to do the same. When you're done, go back to bed still a
little damp and pat each other dry. If you don't have a tub, a soak under the
shower can be just as invigorating.
15. Share a good kissing
and cuddling session with your partner.
Share with your partner
in bed, the tub, in the TV room, or wherever you can think of a good session of
caresses and fast or passionate kisses. Run your tongue slowly over her body
and play, laugh, and enjoy without having sex. You will see that the pleasure
they experience can go beyond orgasm and the suspense you provoke in her is a
wonderful aphrodisiac that can greatly increase the quality of her love life.
16. Make new sensual caresses
There are other ways to
stimulate the senses: a pleasant room, an aroma of incense and some
strawberries placed in strategic places, a preamble to the most sensual
caresses like a feather that maddeningly brushes the most sensitive parts, a
body sprinkled with honey that you then make of savor with your tongue, ice
that slowly runs through her skin while she enjoys the sensation with her eyes
closed and, why not? sour or sweet fruits that you give her to taste directly
in her mouth to engage her sense of taste as well.
17. Engage all your
senses
Our five senses are a true blessing, not only because they put us in touch with the world around us,
but also because they allow us to fully enjoy sex. Sight, looking at your
partner's body, smell, feeling his smell, hearing, listening to his moans;
touch, feeling its firmness and its textures, its dampness, and its curves; and
taste, savoring its… flavors.
18. How about a massage?
The most refined arts
of massage come from two cultures that know what they do when it comes to good
sex: the oriental and the French. Few things are sexier than giving a gentle
massage to your naked body with essential oil, staying close to the most
sensitive parts, running your fingers through each of its corners. This will
put your partner in a great mood for sex and cause the temperature to rise. She
can do the same with you and then why not? a mutual massage.
19. Identify your erogenous zones
There are certain areas
on the skin that are especially sexually sensitive. This sensitivity is due to
the fact that sensitive nerve endings are located in our bodies that react to
touch. Hence it's important in sexual practice: when caressed they produce a
sexual stimulus.
The lips, thighs,
chest, genitals, and buttocks are especially sensitive to touch. But almost all
skin can become an erogenous zone if the desired contact is received. Identify
the parts of the body, both yours and your partner's, that experience the most
pleasure and stimulation when being caressed. And keep in mind that their
stimulation can be done with hands and fingers, but they respond with greater
intensity if they are caressed with mouth, lips, and tongue.
20. Find a new place to make love
Add some excitement and
novelty to your sex life by making love in a new place! Rent a hotel room with
an ocean view. If you are alone at home, propose to make love in the living
room; if they are half-dressed, not totally naked, they will add a touch of mischief
and mischief to the situation ... the possibilities are endless.
21. Do the unexpected
Nothing removes the
monotony of a relationship like what is not expected! Use your imagination and
add a little ingenuity to turn sexual intercourse into an adventure. Next time,
put on romantic music and invite your partner to dance. Bring your bodies
together and undress each other. When the time comes, try different postures.
22. Say clearly what you want
When it comes to heat
and passion, don't be afraid to tell your partner what you want him to do at
that moment. Just watch how you say it. You have to ask for it in a sexy and
subtle way, not barking orders. It is always good to receive some guidance on
what pleases you or your whim of the moment. And of course, your partner has
the same right.
23. Take your time
Hey, you're not a
teenager anymore, are you? So why do you keep having sex in a hurry? Although
sometimes quickies can be attractive, when both are full of desire and there is
not much time to satisfy each other, the truth is that the best sex is the one
where the clock stops, and both are conscientiously dedicated to exploring,
caressing, enjoying each other, before to reach sexual union. And when it
comes, you have to do it slowly, which is how it feels most. Give up the rush.
Sex is not a question of quantity, but of quality, and also, the sexual
response in women takes about half an hour to become aroused, lubricated and
dilated enough to be able to receive the penis inside.
24. Encourages foreplay
Pre-sexual caresses are
very important since they prepare the body of men and women to better enjoy the
moment of intercourse in order to reach orgasm. Contrary to popular belief, men
also need and enjoy it, as it provides the necessary stimulation to achieve a
firm erection. In the case of women, this phase is especially important,
because, in order to achieve the necessary arousal, your body requires
prolonged stimulation. This foreplay causes the vagina to dilate and begin to
lubricate, which facilitates the penetration of the penis and provides the
woman with a sufficient level of arousal to be able to reach orgasm.
25. wear exciting clothes
If you think that
wearing sensual clothes is something exclusively for women, you are wrong. Try
to use adjustable cotton trusses, preferably smooth or with very discreet
prints, which in addition to being very comfortable, allow you to highlight
your charms, and above all, they will make you feel very good. Remember that
confidence is a great aphrodisiac, and it is much easier to achieve when you
feel good about yourself, even if you do not have the best body. If you think
this is not important, go to bed naked, freshly bathed, and with your best
lotion.
26. Take care of the
details
What details? There you
go: the bed squeaks; there is a leak in the roof that falls just right; the
boxer you wore yesterday is lying on the back of the sofa; you took everything
off, but you kept your socks on; Instead of romantic music, the diabolical
choirs of Carmina Burana resound; there are workers in the next room hammering
away, and the TV is on the newscast, while you caress your lover, blasting out
the most gruesome accounts of the latest massacre. Remember that sex is also
mental. How do you want things to go well with such distractions?
27. Surprise your partner
No, this is not a
contradiction. It is one thing to jump on top of her when she is setting the
table and quite another, for example, to wait for her with the bed full of rose
petals, incense, and a bottle of white wine chilling in the bucket. This will
make her feel like she is special to you, and will give you the best sex
session of your life. So the next time you plan to make love, surprise your
partner and let your creativity flow.
28. Choose the best
moment.
A person who
understands her partner knows that it is not a good idea to make an unseemly
proposition when she is busy finishing the report she should have filed
yesterday, or with stress on top. With the passage of time and increasing
knowledge of your partner, you will know when is the ideal time to turn that
moment of a chore or the shower into a session of intense sex.
29. Talk openly about what you like.
Can you tell me without
thinking, five things that drive your partner crazy in bed? If you can, I
congratulate you, but if not, you are missing something. In both cases, talking
about sex as a couple is as or more important than talking about obligations,
money, children, and the future (phew!). If you have good sexual communication,
if you know what you like and what you don't like, where you prefer to be
touched and how, with what pressure, rhythm, and frequency, what turns you on
and what turns you off, things will work smoothly and delightfully, plus the
verbal description of pleasures is often very exciting.
30. Read and learn about sexuality.
Don't think you already
know everything, huh? Some things might surprise you. Yes, even if you are over
30. The truth is that many men know the basics, but not everything that
surrounds and interests human sexuality, which is a true branch of science. And
something undeniable: the more you know about your body and hers, how to
stimulate them, how they work and why, the better your performance will be in
the big moment. It's not all practice here, buddy, there's a good deal of
theory too.
31. Have good hygiene.
The truth is that smell
is an absolutely sexual sense. In addition, having good hygiene prevents
infections and that kind of unpleasant thing. Take care of everything: body
hygiene, oral hygiene, and of course, genital hygiene, especially if you are
not circumcised, since smegma, a discharge that forms under the foreskin, can
cause problems if you let it accumulate.
32. Maintain good health.
Well, this is obvious,
right? Diseases are not related to sex. And conditions like diabetes can
greatly affect sexual performance. So get a regular checkup, take your meds,
and do what you need to do. This includes visiting the specialist at least once
when following good practices.
33. No sex after eating.
At the very least, not
immediately afterward. Sex is like swimming: if you practice it within ten
minutes of getting up from the table, it can give you congestion. Seriously!
Wait at least an hour, until the most difficult part of digestion is completed,
and your blood is not busy in the stomach.
34. Exercise.
How do you want to have
a good sexual session, if in the first five minutes of forced labor you are
already out of breath, looking for the oxygen tank? How do you want to be a
good lover, if you get stuck in a difficult position because your lumbago grabs
you or your knees crack? To enjoy sex, a good physical condition is essential,
that is, to be able to rush without suffocating, bend your body and stretch
without problems and have strength and endurance. So you are already exercising.
In addition, this will make you have a better body and raise your self-esteem,
which will fulfill the number one key.
35. Love your body.
This is the first. It
is not possible to enjoy sex if you are thinking that you are unattractive. One
of the essential requirements to have good sex is self-confidence and high
self-esteem. If you love your body, if you know that you are not a perfect person,
but you like and accept yourself, you will feel more pleasure and less shame,
which will increase your libido and also your sexual power.
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