Effective Tips to Overcome Doubts About Yourself

“Our suspicions about ourselves are actually deceptive. That is why we do not have the courage to try to win. "- William Shakespeare. 

This quote from William Shakespeare speaks of a very common human problem. Because of this problem, we cannot achieve much despite having many qualifications. The problem is self-doubt. In other words, lack of self-confidence.

Doubt about oneself means the voice within oneself that prevents us from moving forward. Whenever we try something new, he tells us it won't work with us. And we retreat in fear. We miss a lot of good opportunities because a voice from the inside says - it's too hard, we can't do it.

But the truth is, any big achievement is difficult. But it is not complicated. The effort, goodwill, and hard work - if these three are present, a person can make the impossible possible.

Even simple things seem difficult when you have doubts about yourself; Which is why a lot of times we don’t even start things that can be done easily.

It is true that before starting anything, one should think about one's strengths and weaknesses. Only fools do not judge their own power. That doesn't mean you have to back down. More than that, where there are shortcomings - you can only succeed if you try to fix them.

However, these are also known to almost all of us. Yet many times self-doubt pushes us back.

That's why it's important to know how to overcome self-doubt to move forward in life. Today you will know 10 effective tips to overcome this problem. So that if you have doubts about yourself in the future, you can use them to solve the problem.

01. Control the mind

Earl Nightingale, a master of self-development in the '70s, compared the human mind to a huge, powerful car in one of his audio programs. The human mind may be a very powerful thing. Has the power to form the impossible possible. But most people do not realize that he is the driver of this huge powerful car. He can drive it in any direction he wants. But if the driving wheel is not held tight, the mind will ruin you like any other car.

Earl Nightingale said, "You can achieve anything using your mind if you hold your hand tightly to the steering wheel." That is if you drive the car in the right direction.

A ‘core’ feature of the human brain is that it wants to keep the owner safe at all times. He does not allow people to take risks in maintaining this security. He makes the slightest risk a lot bigger. As a result, we move away from good opportunities. Besides, most of the time the mind wants to be immersed in entertainment and enjoyment.

Ordinary people rarely try to control their minds because they think the mind is controlling them. But the truth is, you can control your mind if you want.

If irrational and negative thoughts come into your head or you have doubts about yourself while doing any work, or taking any important step, then you will understand that the car of the mind has started going in the wrong direction. Hold the driving wheel tightly in this position. Think positive by force. Say again and again, "I can and with me it is possible." And start believing that by force. After a while, you will see that those negative thoughts inside the mind have stopped. The matter is so simple. "People just look for secrets. The biggest secret is - there is no such thing as a secret. Great things can be achieved by using the right things. "said Gary Weinerchak, a successful entrepreneur and motivator.

Whenever there is an unreasonable suspicion about yourself - grab his throat without delay. Take the car the other way - where you really want to go.

02. Think about the past

If you have doubts about yourself while taking an important step, then think about the past.

How many people do you know who have achieved great things through the most difficult times? From all the people in the world who have made history by their deeds - the position from which most of them started -, there was no possibility for them to do such a great thing.

In today's world, you will find many people who have gone through much harder times than you and have done great things.

Maybe you've done it yourself before. Maybe you have already successfully completed a task that seemed impossible due to compulsion or someone's encouragement. If you can then, why not now? If someone else can, why can't you? When you think like this, you will see that your self-confidence has increased a lot and your doubts and hesitations have also decreased a lot. If you start working, that doubt and hesitation will disappear completely.

03. Talk to a trusted person who is optimistic

Some people around us can stay positive at all times. They have a smile on their face even in bad situations. At all times they expect something good.

You must find someone like that among your friends, colleagues, and relatives. Such people can be good to themselves, as well as the people around them can hear the message of hope. If you are in doubt or disappointed for any reason, go to such people and talk about your condition. You will see that they are very nicely showing you the positive aspects of the situation. At the same time, they will invigorate you with their optimistic attitude. After talking, you will see that you are not feeling depressed like before.

Also, if you know little about something, talk to an expert you know (or don't know) about it. Then you will no longer suffer from a lack of confidence when going to work.

04. Don't compare

When people compare themselves to others, they become the weakest. Most of the time we do not compare in the right way.

If Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba is your idol, you will be in danger if you compare your current situation with his current. Suppose he now owns 50 billion USD, on the other hand, you may not be able to earn 500 USD per month. You have to think about what he has done to be like you or worse than you and how he has come to this stage after overcoming that bad time. Then you will get more encouragement.

If you compare yourself to others all the time, you are more likely to be disappointed. First, you have to fix your final goal. Then you have to work for that success. Succeeding in the eyes of others or the people around you does not mean true success. Being able to do what you want from the heart is a real success.

All keys are keys, but not all locks can be opened with all keys.

Compete with yourself instead of competing with others. Use every moment of today to make the future better than the present. This is how you will see when you have surpassed others without even realizing it yourself.

05. Write the journal

Renowned self-development coach Brian Tracy emphasizes writing in each of his books and lectures. According to him, to fulfill a person's life goal in the right way, it is very important to do journaling or writing about that goal every day. This increases the chances of success several times.

Journaling habits can benefit you in many ways. It can help you overcome self-doubt in two ways:

Whenever you have doubts about yourself for any reason, if you try to write down the reasons for this suspicion on a piece of paper - then the reasons will come to your mind in a very clear way. Our brains work more than usual when writing anything. The thoughts are very clear.

After writing down the reasons, start writing the remedy for that cause next to it. If you think about it, the remedies may not come to mind very well. But at the time of writing, many details will come to mind. You can easily solve the problems. Writing down different aspects of the problem and its solutions will increase the enthusiasm and interest to work on them.

06. Don’t overestimate the opinions of others

When you worry too much about what others might think in your actions and words, self-doubt will grow. And at some point, you will be afraid to start working. In fact, one of the main reasons for self-doubt about one's actions and words is to overemphasize the opinions of others.

Honestly, no one really cares about your words and deeds except very few people. And the people who will always find flaws in your work - their nature is to find flaws. No matter how well you do it, they will catch flaws. According to Gary Weinerchak, a successful entrepreneur and business trainer, "These people are in fact utterly unsuccessful and useless in their own lives. They criticize others to cover up their own imperfections."

The uncle next door who is more worried about your BCS exam than your father is most of the time he is a clerk or something like that. They have done nothing to say in their life but they are good at dealing with others. In the same way, those who make negative comments on other people's writings or pictures on social media have no job at all.

People who have real work do not have time to worry about it. Those who really care for you will always encourage you and wish you well. Give constructive advice by pointing out mistakes instead of criticism.

So don’t shy away from any action or action for fear of ‘what people say. Remember at all times, the right to your life belongs to you and your loved ones. It doesn't matter what anyone says outside of it. When you can bring yourself into this thought, you will see that there is less doubt about yourself.

07. Motivate yourself

If you start each day with a message of hope and learning something good, then your mind will be better throughout the day. There will be a lot more faith in yourself.

Read or listen to motivational quotes or speeches every morning. Read biographies of successful people. Then you will see that your confidence in yourself and your work has increased.

When Hal Elrod, the author of the Miracle Morning book, lost everything, he listened to himself positively every day and listened to motivational books or something like that. In this way, he regained his self-confidence every day and gradually regained his lost fortune.

Every day, whenever you have time, read, listen, or watch something good and motivating. This will make your self-confidence and optimistic attitude last. Whatever you go to do, or go on to say - there will be no unreasonable doubt about anything.

08. Remember: All failures are temporary

Failure has no power of its own unless we make it strong. If we think it is important, then he is strong. Past failures often erode our self-confidence. But to be honest, failure is just an event. Which may have had an effect in the past but now exists only in our minds.

Remember, you are not a failed person because you have failed before. If you start over and learn from your previous failures, that failure will not overwhelm you again. Remember all the time, you can't succeed without failure. Failure to come to a job will come. You will become an expert in that work at some point by learning from failure. The path is known at a time when the path is wrong.

You must think deeply about past failures, but only to find out what you can learn from them. Then just thinking about it means wasting time.

09. Always try to improve your skills

If you have the knowledge and skills in a subject, you will have a lot of confidence to make a decision or work on that subject. Many times we can't even take action because we don't have enough knowledge and skills. The main way to improve your skills in any subject is to study and practice that subject.

Many people do not have the courage to speak in front. If you read books on the subject to increase your presentation skills and practice regularly after enrolling in the course, you will see that you have become much more proficient in the subject ahead of time.

According to world-renowned self-development coach Brian Tracy, "If someone spends 3% of their money on improving their skills (buying books, taking courses, etc.), they will soon become one of the best in their field."

Regardless of where you want to be the best, regular practice and knowledge will keep you confident at all times. And you will not have the mentality to doubt your own power in that matter.

10. Divide the big goal into smaller goals and complete them step by step.

This will come to the fore when discussing success or self-development. When you set a very big goal, you will naturally have a little doubt about the ability to meet that goal. The best way to get rid of these doubts is to divide a big goal into smaller goals.

Suppose you want to climb the stairs to the 10th floor. It can be a little scary to look at ten floors at once. Instead of thinking of 10 floors, think of climbing one floor or 5 stairs. Don't worry about the next floor when you go up to the 1st floor. Put your whole focus on one floor. Then you will not feel nervous anymore.

Remember a quote from Martin Luther King Jr.: “Just take one step with faith. You don't have to look at all the stairs, just take the first step. "

Competitors in marathon races have to run 26 miles in a row. No one acquires the ability to run 26 miles at a time. First run 1 mile, then 2 miles… thus gaining strength and efficiency after a long period of practice. Compare your big goal to a marathon run. Think about this race all the time and you will see that you are getting excited.

If your goal is 10 years, then just think about this year. Divide the year into 12 months, divide the month into weeks, thus setting goals for each day. Gain confidence for the next day by meeting small goals every day.

Thus, as you go through each step, the confidence to go to the next step will be born in you. Doubts about one's own ability or success will go away.

Appendix

He who can believe can achieve. This is what Shakespeare's quote at the beginning of this article means. Many potential lives fail just because you don't believe in yourself and take the first step. No matter how much you doubt yourself, don't pay attention to it. If you really have a weakness in a subject, work hard to overcome that weakness and gain knowledge. Maybe you have no education in any subject but you have the ability and time to learn. Just need faith and effort.

This writing is to awaken that faith and enthusiasm in you. Our efforts are only successful if the writing helps you to know how to overcome your doubts. Thanks