12 steps to love yourself

Do we love ourselves? When we begin to love each other more every day, it's amazing how our lives are renewed. We feel better, we get the jobs we want, our personal and family relationships become more harmonious, or the negative ones disappear and new ones begin; we get the money we need and in general, we feel the flow with life.

1.  Ask yourself: 

Who I am? This simple question is actually veritably delicate to answer. It is a question that seeks the root of your values, beliefs, doubts, sense of reality, and even external perceptions that were imposed on you by others, whether or not they are true.

2. Stop criticizing yourself and praise yourself.

Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes will be negative. The key to stopping criticizing yourself is to implement positive words in your vocabulary and understand that you are not perfect and that in life you will make mistakes many times.

Give yourself the opportunity to make mistakes and learn from them. Focus on all the good things you know how to do. When you authorize yourself, your changes are positive Refuse to criticize yourself. Praise yourself, criticism destroys the inner spirit, and praise builds it. Praise yourself for how well you do things, no matter how insignificant they are.

3. Waiver of complaints.

They weaken you, block you and fill you with guilt. Your power decreases because you give it to the person or thing you complain about, you become a helpless being or a victim.

Put your attention on the things that you can do, improve or change, and what is more important, recognize what you cannot change and accept it as part of life. Whom you complain about or what you complain about is usually out of your hands. Learn to live in the present and work in your personal world.

4. Stay away from fear

Stop terrifying yourself with your thoughts. It's a terrible way to live. Look for mental images that evoke pleasure and immediately change a fearful thought to a pleasant thought, to an image that makes you feel happy and hopeful.

5. Train and take care of your mind.

It is important that you learn to relax because being tense or scared obstructs the energy that connects you with your higher power and blocks your mind. Be tolerant of your mind. Self-hatred is hatred of one's own thoughts. Do not hate yourself for having the thoughts you have. Subtly change them. Daily meditation and prayer are excellent tools. Also, as the practice of yoga, conscious breathing, and creative visualization.

6. Forgive yourself.

Forgiving yourself and forgiving your parents, combined with releasing past hurts, heal more illnesses than you could ever imagine. Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time, based on the understanding, awareness, and knowledge you had. Now you are growing and changing and therefore you live life differently.

Then collaborate with your body and mind by forgiving yourself and everyone with whom you have an unresolved issue. If you don't know how, I advise you to start by writing a letter where you write all the things you are upset about, when you finish it, tear it up and burn it saying: "I forgive you and I set you free" and so on with each one of them. the people you want to forgive. Write everything down and let off steam, it's a good start.

7. Be kind and patient.

Be nice to yourself. Be patient while you learn this new way of thinking. Treat yourself as you would treat a person you genuinely love.

8. Give yourself support.

Find ways to support yourself. Turn to your family and friends, and let yourself help. It is a sign of strength to ask for help when needed, including a therapist if needed.

9. Make peace with yourself. Be indulgent with your negatives.

Understand that you created them to meet a number of needs. Now you are finding new and positive ways to meet those same needs. So lovingly let the old negative patterns go.

10. Take care of your body.

Learn about the right nutrition for you and exercise.

11. Work with the mirror.

Look into your eyes often. Express the growing love you feel for yourself. Forgive yourself by looking in the mirror. Talk to your parents looking at yourself in the mirror. Forgive them too.

12. Have fun.

Include in your life, if possible, on a daily basis, some activity that causes you joy, that you like, or simply indulge yourself with small gifts or pleasant moments. Remember, you deserve it.