Breaking up doesn't mean falling behind.

Who does not dream of a small house full of love? One might dream of holding hands with one's partner for the rest of one's life. But when that man of love goes away for a while, darkness descends on the earth. It's very normal to be emotionally broken if the person you love breaks up. Separation from the person you love seems to put an end to life.

As a result of the evolution of human civilization, human relationships with humans are becoming increasingly complex. When the bonds about love become loose, things like separation about love happen. Just as it is in a long-term love relationship, it is also in a marital relationship. Lack of trust between two people, lack of respect, lack of clarity, ego, excessive anger, disagreement, misunderstanding, different mentality, lack of understanding, etc. play a role in breaking the relationship between two people. Any separation is painful.

Is love broken with too much care? Is the mind absolutely bad? Do you want to sit behind the door of the house without work or eating? Wanting to get back in the relationship, again occasionally filling the bitterness. If the relationship breaks down, there will be such a problem. But what will happen if you sit with your arms and legs folded without everything? The sooner you can get rid of the pain, the more you will be able to overcome the pain. The transformation of grief into energy is also adapted to separation.

But you can't spend your whole life falling apart or drowning in despair. So we have to take care of ourselves and move forward. You have to stand up in a new way, you have to forget the old memories. Today's article is for people who have broken up about love or marriage and can't cope with the situation. Can't figure out how to get out of this predicament and go back to normal life. It is possible to deal with the pressures of separation by taking certain steps. These are:

1. Don't blame yourself:

A relationship can be broken for many reasons. Long-term relationships can be broken for many serious reasons or even for many small reasons. Maybe there was a problem of understanding between the two parties or there was a lack of communication. But never forget to blame yourself for breaking up the relationship. Think about what happened is for the better. Maybe the relationship wasn't going to last. Your breakup was due to some complications. If this complication continued to grow, the relationship would only get worse. So it's over, it's good.

2. Take care of yourself:

When a relationship breaks down, everyone becomes indifferent about the body and mind, that's what we always think. You will not want to eat, you will not sleep - these are very normal things at this time. But the reality is different. Days have changed, research says at least. Nowadays people are becoming more aware of their bodies than ever before after breaking up. Eating is increasing, weight is also increasing. That means depression is not doing much. Put these aside and focus on keeping yourself beautiful.

So to get out of this frustration, you have to be more careful about yourself. Eat moderately nutritious food, eat fresh fruits. Try to sleep and of course exercise. If the body is strong, the mind will not take time to be good.

3. Give yourself time:

We usually become very restless after a relationship breaks up. It is true that at this time a deep sense of emptiness is created in life. This emptiness continues to storm the mind for a long time. Without getting out of the frustration of breaking up a relationship, we get involved in another relationship. From a broken relationship but we can learn what to do or what to avoid in our relationship later on. So give yourself time after separation, try to love yourself a little more. Arrange the broken pieces of the mind anew. Keep notes of what you learned from the process. It will take a lot of light. There will be a positive change in mentality.

4. Eliminate Negative Thoughts / Be Confident:

Survival after a relationship breaks down seems meaningless. Many even begin to think of themselves as suicidal. You need to get out of this negative thinking. You have to prove that you are not so weak or so fragile.

Each of us has a defense mechanism. It can overcome all our storms and bring us back to the mainstream of life. This is the structure of our brain, even when love is broken, it comes back to normal. So get rid of negative thoughts and become confident. Don't worry, you will have to overcome the pain of separation and return to the path of new life.

5. Get rid of frustration:

Your life was not limited to just one person. Relationships are broken, what is it? You are not alone in the world. You wake up out of frustration. Look at the world and people in a new way. Learn to think of everything around you as your life force. You will see that you are well. If you really want to get out of the filth of the past, don't go back to that past again and again. Just try to take the past experience as a lesson, not as a path.

6. Don't be alone:

Try not to be alone. The longer you are alone during this time, the more difficult it will be for you. So don't be alone at this time, go out with friends. If you can't find friends, spend time with family and go out. Don't stay away from chats or family events because you don't have a partner. Then the problem will increase. If you sit alone and grieve, the fatigue will increase. Spend time with everyone.

7. Spend time with positive people:

When a relationship breaks up, a person becomes very mentally ill. Now, in this situation, if the people around him constantly bring up the issue or start talking harshly, then it is really impossible to mend the broken mind again. If you have positive and supportive people around you, you will soon regain confidence.

8. Learn to take responsibility:

Remember that what was supposed to happen has already happened. Instead of blaming yourself or the person you love, take small responsibilities for the well-being of the family, friends, or close ones. When you see that you can put a smile on someone's face in just a little bit, then all the unattainable and hardships will continue to fade away. Many live in grief. Sad songs, sad movies, reading messages make the mind more burdened. This will create negativity around you. Your friends and relatives will be upset with you. If you want to overcome the situation, eliminate grief. So awaken the sense of responsibility in yourself.

9. Travel, make new friends:

Travel is always much more beneficial to reduce the burden on the mind and clear the head. Plan to travel with friends to a new place. New environment, new place, new people - it will help a lot to lighten the old memories of your mind.

10. Change perspective:

People have different views on love and relationships. According to some people love comes only once, some people think love comes again and again, for some people love is not good. The end of the relationship means you are not the end - that's your idea. Then you will be alone without getting involved, think about it later.

11. Do what you love to do:

It is very difficult to concentrate on something with a broken mind. But if you want to get out of the frustration of breaking up and enjoy life in a new way, you need to bring back interest in your favorite activities. You need to be busy at this time. So that the memory of the past does not peek into the corner of the mind again and again. You have to forget your mind as it is not possible to erase the memories of special moments and happiness. Focus on your normal activities. Do the things you love. If you love to sing, you will sing. The biggest thing is to give yourself time, love yourself. Whatever your mind wants, the way you seem to be able to rejuvenate yourself; Do that. So keep yourself busy, you will see the frustration is starting to subside.

12. Get rid of clutter:

Tear down old letters and pictures, delete e-mails, messages, etc. Remove the past man from Facebook and other means of communication. Refrain from following him on Facebook. Because, if you follow on Facebook, seeing that person happy increases the pain of the mind. Doing this consumes more pain. Stop inquiring about the man who ended the relationship from someone you know.

Many people call and text the person they love even after the relationship is over to find out why he did that, what is his fault, etc. Turn it off. Avoid things that make it difficult for you to control your emotions. Stop postmortem with old relationships after you leave the relationship.

13. Learn to forgive:

Forgive the person whose relationship ended. Why this happened to me or why he did it - this question comes to the minds of many after the break up of the relationship. Stop looking for answers to this question. Because, he who has left, has no advantage over the answer. He will never answer that.

14. Relax:

Breathing relaxation if you feel very restless. Take a deep breath slowly through the nose, filling all the empty space inside the chest with air. Hold your breath for a while, then exhale slowly through your mouth. Do this three times in a row.